Interview with Tami Brady, "Strategies - A Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia Journey"

Tami Brady earned a BA and MA in Archeologylooking for important information such as types of
before turning her interests to alternativemedications, health care contacts, and doctor's
medicine, largely due to her own issues withappointments).
infertility and being diagnosed with Chronic FatigueThere really isn't a right or wrong way to use
Syndrome and Fibromyalgia. Today she providesthese forms. I have included copies of my own
whole health therapy sessions to help people withcompleted forms at the end of the book if
Fibromyalgia and infertility issues. She is the authoranyone wishes to see the types of information
of seven books, the latest of which is "Strategies:that could be included in these charts. However,
A Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgiamy best advice for readers, especially when using
Journey."the strategy forms, is to fill out the sections as
Tyler: Thank you for joining me today, Tami. I'mhonestly as possible in order to gain some
intrigued that you've written "Strategies" as aunderstanding of the various symptoms and what
memoir. To begin, will you tell us a little bit abouttypes of things work for them.
your own journey dealing with Chronic FatigueTyler: What are some of the most prevalent
Syndrome and Fibromyalgia?symptoms a person will notice if they have
Tami: Great to meet you, Tyler.Fibromyalgia?
In 1996, I was readying myself for a new phaseTami: Unfortunately, the symptoms of
of my life. My children were all now in school and IFibromyalgia (such as localized pain, muscle
was planning to study for my archaeology degree.weakness, and memory issues) are shared with a
That winter, I had more than the usual number ofnumber of other conditions ranging from
the flu and colds, which I attributed to stress: myaccidental poisoning and problems with the thyroid
job, readying to go to back to school, and myglands to Multiple Sclerosis and Lupus. It really isn't
father-in-law's impending open-heart surgery.easy to determine if a person has Fibromyalgia. It
That spring, I got another bout of what I thoughtis for this reason that most individuals with these
was the flu. This one knocked me completely offkinds of symptoms have to endure a battery of
my feet. I could hardly get out of bed eachtests and examinations before any sort of
morning.diagnosis is determined.
Unfortunately, it wasn't the flu. I spent the nextTyler: Our reviewer, Paige Lovitt, mentioned that
year being shuffled around from one specialist toshe also has Fibromyalgia, and that like yourself
another trying to figure out what was wrong withshe was an overachiever, which seemed to
me. By the time, I was diagnosed with Chronicexasperate the situation. Is Chronic Fatigue
Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia my health hadSyndrome and Fibromyalgia something people can
deteriorated. I hardly slept, I was in constant pain,create for themselves due to pushing themselves
and my legs collapsed on a regular basis.to do too much?
It took me a long time to deal with my conditions.Tami: This is one of those things that no one
I was angry and frustrated but probably myseems to know about these conditions. It seems
biggest hurdle was all the denial and selfto me that the majority of individuals I talk to
judgments. I saw my health issues as a sign thatwith Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia
I was weak and a failure. So instead of listening toare extremely busy, overachievers. For a number
what my body was screaming to tell me, I justof years, I actually believed that I had somehow
kept pushing myself hoping that the pain andcaused myself to become ill.
fatigue would dissipate on its own.Then, I came upon some material that looked at
Perhaps that's the most important lesson forother conditions that are commonly associated
those of us who live with Chronic Fatiguewith Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia.
Syndrome and Fibromyalgia. We spend so muchThe ones that stuck out for me were
time and energy berating ourselves for what weEndometriosis, Renauld's Syndrome, and allergies. I
can't do and the lives we were forced to leavesuffer from all three of these. Suddenly, I realized
behind that we forget about the gifts that we arethat I might have actually had a predisposition to
given through this experience. Our fatigue and painChronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia. It
makes us choose what's really important in ourbecame clear to me that even though my
lives. These symptoms force us to be moreoverachiever attitude obviously made my
loving and kind to ourselves. If we allow them to,symptoms worse, I hadn't caused myself to
they can even show us a better, more content,become sick.
fulfilling existence.Tyler: Paige also mentioned that some people in
Tyler: Tami, is there a relation between Chronicthe medical field still tell people that Chronic
Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia? Can a personFatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia are only in
have one without the other-does one cause thetheir heads. What response would you give to
other?people skeptical about the existence of these
Tami: The general definition of Fibromyalgia isdisorders?
chronic pain. One of the diagnostic tests forTami: This is probably one of the worst parts of
Fibromyalgia is the presence of pain in a majorityliving with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and
of particular trigger points throughout the body.Fibromyalgia. Often the symptoms of these
Actual symptoms vary from person to personconditions are invisible to the average person so
including localized pain; heaviness or weaknessmost people don't even realize that we are sick.
causing mobility issues, swelling of the joints;Therefore, when we mention we have health
memory and thinking impairment (fibrofog); and aissues most people are shocked. The first
myriad of other problems. Between four to eightreaction for many people is disbelief, even within
million individuals suffer with Fibromyalgia in thethe medical community.
United States alone. Some estimates suggest thatMy advice to all individuals with Chronic Fatigue
5% of the population actually has Fibromyalgia.and Fibromyalgia is to talk to others facing the
Another million people have Chronic Fatiguesame issues and arm yourself with knowledge.
Syndrome. A large portion of individuals who haveJoin a discussion group or a local support group,
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome also have Fibromyalgia.read whatever books or articles you can find. You
The most common symptom with Chronicwill soon realize that you are not alone; remember
Fatigue Syndrome is intense fatigue, often coupledthere are millions of us out there. Make use of
with unrecuperative sleep and chronic insomnia.these resources to build yourself a solid support
In my case, my Chronic Fatigue Syndromesystem and above all keep looking for health care
symptoms often exasperate my Fibromyalgiaoptions that will fulfill your needs.
issues and vice versa. Far too many times aTyler: If a person thinks he or she does have
string of sleepless nights has heralded a wave ofChronic Fatigue and Fibromyalgia, how should they
back pain or intense pain in my hip that has madego about getting diagnosed with it? Should they
it impossible to get any sleep.start with their local doctor, or are there
Tyler: Tami, why do you think it took so long forspecialists or specific hospitals a person should visit
the doctors to diagnose you with Chronic Fatiguefor treatment and diagnosis? Where did you finally
and Fibromyalgia, and how did you know theyget diagnosed with it?
were correct when you were finally diagnosedTami: Most people do start with their family
with it?doctor and are then referred to various specialists
Tami: At present, there are no definitive tests foras they go through the testing process.
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome or Fibromyalgia.Afterwards, some individuals team up with
Moreover, since many of the symptoms aremedical professionals who specialize in Chronic
shared with other conditions such as accidentalFatigue and Fibromyalgia for their care and
poisoning, problems with the thyroid glands, Lupus,management. I personally started the process
Multiple Sclerosis, and the like, it is extremelywith my family doctor who referred me to a
difficult to determine that someone has Chronicvariety of different specialists. The final specialist,
Fatigue Syndrome or Fibromyalgia. Essentially, awho gave me my diagnosis, was a Sports
doctor has to discount every other possibleMedicine professional.
physical solution. Then, after psychologicalThe sad truth is that at present going through the
evaluations are complete, they can finally look toprocess of testing and getting to the heart of
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia.your health issues can be a very frustrating
Unfortunately, for now at least, it's just a longexperience. So my best advice to people who
frustrating process.think they may have these conditions is to find a
To be honest, when I was diagnosed with Chronichealth care professional with whom they feel
Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia, I didn'tcomfortable. Having someone who will really listen
believe it was a real condition. I thought that itto you, answer your questions, and work with
was a made up nonsense that the doctors toldyou is invaluable. Don't be afraid to look around
people so they could ready themselves for havingfor someone who fits you and your needs.
Multiple Sclerosis. The reason I thought this wasTyler: What sorts of responses have you
because my aunt had recently been diagnosedreceived so far for the book? I know you
with MS and her symptoms seemed a lot likereceived an endorsement from Bob Rich.
mine.Tami: I have been overwhelmed by the positive
It wasn't until many years later that I came tosupport from both the medical community and
accept that I did indeed have Chronic Fatiguepeople living with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and
Syndrome and Fibromyalgia. This change of heartFibromyalgia. I have received numerous emails
came mostly from reading books about thesefrom people, who like myself, pursued medical or
conditions and interacting with others who havealternative medical careers because of their own
the same issues. Even though some of the actualChronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia
symptoms that we experienced were slightlyexperiences.
different, the locations of pain nodules, the typeI've also had the privilege of having others share
of pain and fatigue, the progression and duration,their stories with me. Some lift my heart: those
and the triggering mechanisms of thesewho found the courage to leave a loveless
experiences were fascinatingly similar.marriage, left a stressful career behind, started a
Tyler: Why did you decide to write "Strategies"?business, let go of grief, and found the courage to
Tami: Strategies gradually evolved into what it isface childhood abuse. Others make my heart
today. It started out with lists and notes that Iache: people feeling frustrated, completely alone,
took with me to all my doctor appointments inand unsupported by the medical system.
those early years. Later, as I started writing aTyler: Will you explain a bit about whole health
personal journal, my writing became more abouttherapy? Are you an advocate of holistic health
expressing my feelings in a safe way. Finally, Ipractices? I think some confusion exists about
formally began to analyze my symptoms and tryholistic medicine as being outside accepted
to find strategies to deal with them.medicine. What concerns if any, should people
It was at this point that I started working on thehave about holistic medicine?
actual text for this book. At first, I had noTami: Whole health therapy is a methodology that
intention of publishing my words. I simply neededworks in conjunction with other forms of health
to understand my own story. I had a lot ofcare. In my practice, I focus on Energy
deeply hidden emotions and insecurities that IPsychology (Reiki and various forms of spiritual
needed to acknowledge so that they could behealing) which is useful not only as relaxation and
released.coping techniques but also as a means to enhance
Being so very open and honest was a prettyself healing.
scary prospect. In truth, I think I was afraid ofI am an advocate for finding what works for
who I might find hidden underneath all theeach person. Some individuals will feel quite
overachieving bravado that I had built up over thecomfortable looking to complementary,
years. Still, each time I sat down to write, I feltalternative, and holistic health care options. Others
another piece of a huge burden lifted from me. Imay find it a little uncomfortable or ill suited to
began feeling content, more peaceful, and even atheir personal beliefs. My best advice is to follow
little joyful.your intuition and do whatever works for your
Eventually, I knew that I had to share my storyparticular situation.
with others. Not because I was in any way specialTyler: Tami, I know this is not your first book. Will
but to validate the journeys of everyone whoyou tell us a little bit about some of the other
has been touched by Chronic Fatigue Syndromebooks you have written?
and Fibromyalgia. Our symptoms and our personalTami: "Strategies" is my seventh published book
paths might not be exactly the same but havingand my third title with Loving Healing Press. My
these conditions impacts our lives in a way thatfirst book was "The Complete Being: Finding and
we couldn't have imagined in our wildest dreamsLoving the Real You." "The Complete Being" is a
(or nightmares as the case might be).guide to the healthy development of the mental,
Tyler: Tami, you actually are very involved in theemotional, spiritual, and physical aspects of the
alternative health field. Do you credit your ownself. Readers are encouraged to use the included
medical issues with your interest in alternativeexercises to understand their genuine nature and
medicine?move towards fulfilling their dreams.
Tami: Yes, very much so. I believe that theMy second and third titles, "Blame and Judgment"
universe sometimes gently nudges us in just theand "From Lost to Found" were books of poetry.
right direction. I'm a little (okay a lot) stubborn, soAs a way of sorting through my feelings, I write
I needed a pretty big push.poetry. Sometimes dark, sometimes full of hope,
I loved being an archaeologist. I really enjoyedthese pieces illustrate my personal journey thus
traveling around the countryside and hiking in thefar.
back country looking for artifacts and remnantsMy fourth book was "Regaining Control: When
of archaeological sites. I also liked the fact thatLove Becomes a Prison." This resource was made
everyone knew what an archaeologist did for aspecifically for those suffering from dependence
living. I never had to dread the "What do you doissues. This issue is near and dear to my heart.
for a living?" question. It never failed, the momentDue to my health issues, I've often worried about
I said I was an archaeologist, the person I waskeeping my independence while accepting
talking to would begin telling me about theirappropriate help. Moreover, I come from a long
favorite Discovery episode. It was a greatline of strong women who found themselves in
icebreaker!abusive situations due to unhealthy dependence.
The major problem with archaeology (apart fromMy fifth and sixth books are training manuals for
the physical strain) was that I had to pretend athe first and second levels of Usui Reiki Ryoho,
lot. I had an image to uphold which wasthe traditional form of Reiki. These books include
extremely limiting. Not only did I have to fane thatfull instructions and the attunement needed to
I was in perfect physical and mental health, I feltundertake Reiki sessions. The final two books in
obligated to adhere to a specific range of beliefsthis series are set to be published by this
and ways of behaving.summer.
As I gradually grew to love and accept myself, ITyler: It sounds like you will be busy for a while,
realized that I didn't have to act a certain way tobut once your two more books on Reiki are
be a good person. I didn't have to impress anyonepublished, do you have plans to write more
but myself. My opinions counted and my personalbooks, and what are your professional plans in
truths were just as valid as the next person's.terms of your medical practices?
This new line of thinking led to experimenting withTami: I will most definitely keep on writing. Writing
alternative health methods such as Reiki andis one of the many gifts that I uncovered while
various traditional forms of spiritual healing, whichon my Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and
eventually led me to whole health therapy. RightFibromyalgia journey. It allows me to be creative
now, my practice focuses primarily on Energyand share my life experiences with others. I
Psychology (Reiki and various form of traditionalactually start to feel like something's missing in my
spiritual healing) as relates to Fibromyalgia andlife when I'm not writing for an extended period
infertility. My current Ph.D. research is looking toof time.
expand this therapy to include aspects of JungianIn the meantime, I will be completing my Ph.D.
Theory (archetypes, shadow work, and dreamresearch and will look to integrate my findings into
therapy), Awareness Therapy (meditation andmy current whole health therapy sessions. Likely,
awareness), and Popular Self Help Psychologythis will include meditations, journaling, awareness
(journaling, self love, manifesting, and belieftherapy exercise in association with my current
analysis).Energy Psychology sessions and the use of
Tyler: Will you tell us about the worksheets in thetechniques such as dream work, shadow work,
book, their purpose, and the best way to usebelief analysis, and manifesting.
them?Tyler: Thank you for joining me today, Tami.
Tami: The worksheets at the back of the bookBefore you go, will you tell our readers about
are copies of those resources that I originallyyour website and what additional information they
made for my own use. I have found themcan find about "Strategies" and your other books?
invaluable for keeping me organized, getting meTami: Thanks so much, Tyler. You can find out
through my worst days, and gaining somemore information about me, whole health therapy,
understanding about the progression of myand my books on my website at My books are
symptoms. For ease of use, I have organizedavailable at Amazon, Barnes and Nobles, and other
these pages into three types: strategy forms (tofine retailers.
help keep track of various symptoms andToday, Tyler R. Tichelaar of Reader Views is
strategies to alleviate these issues); keepingpleased to be joined by Tami Brady, who is here
upbeat (to record inspiring quotes, affirmations,to talk about her new book, "Strategies: A
and anything else that will help on those toughChronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia
days); and getting organized (to combat theJourney," Loving Healing Press (2008), ISBN
effects of fibrofog and reduce the frustration of9781932690484.