| When I work with new clients, I'm always | | | | money, anger, etc], there's a bigger part of me |
| interested in why they have chosen to learn and | | | | that wants to accept myself." |
| use EFT. The answer is usually in the negative, | | | | The purpose of this is to neutralize the Secondary |
| "I'm very ill", "I'm overweight", "I procrastinate", or | | | | Benefit Syndrome. Once this is cleared, we are |
| "I don't have enough money in my life", etc. As a | | | | ready to apply regular EFT on the issue at hand. |
| result of this, I changed one of the questions on | | | | When we tap on our limiting beliefs, traumatic |
| my client intake form to read 'What are your | | | | memories and pain, we shift our perspective, |
| expectations of EFT?' This ensures the client | | | | gently allowing our subconscious to consider |
| focuses on what she would like to accomplish | | | | change. Once the subconscious realizes there is |
| rather than what is going wrong in her life. | | | | nothing to gain from holding on to the problem, it |
| Sometimes it's easier to give attention to what | | | | is open to changing. |
| we don't want in our lives, rather than what we | | | | If there is a part of you which, for whatever |
| do want. We focus on our lack of money, our | | | | reason, is resisting recovering from an illness, |
| poor health, or chronic pain, or how unhealthy we | | | | losing weight, achieving financial freedom, etc., you |
| feel after eating a "comfort" food. | | | | might want to try the following EFT procedure. |
| When we make a definitive decision to focus on | | | | (Please note: I have used illness as the problem |
| what we do want, powerful fears can arise about | | | | but you can substitute whatever concern you |
| making the necessary changes. For example, "If I | | | | have.) First of all, tap on the "reversal" phrase |
| have money, I'll have to be responsible", or "If I | | | | (above), and then tap the karate chop point on |
| am healthy and vibrant again, I'll be expected to | | | | the other hand while saying the following: |
| return to work and/or look after the family", or | | | | "Even though I don't know who I'd be if I were |
| "If I stop eating these cookies every evening, I'll | | | | healthy again, I want to accept myself anyway" |
| have to face what's missing in my life". | | | | "Even though I'm frightened to recover because |
| I have experienced that one of the biggest | | | | of what they'll expect of me, I deeply and |
| responses to the possibility of change is 'Who | | | | completely accept myself" |
| would I be without this _________________ | | | | "Even though I'll lose my identity if I become |
| [extra weight, lack of money, illness, pain, | | | | healthy again, I deserve to forgive myself for |
| addiction, anger, hurt, etc]? This is a frightening | | | | how I'm feeling." |
| consideration because it is exactly the weight, | | | | Now tap the following places while saying each of |
| illness, anger, etc which may well define us. It's | | | | the phrases below:o top of head: I don't know |
| who we've become: Our identity. | | | | who I'd beo eyebrow: Being sick has become my |
| Recently, I was working with a client and we | | | | identityo side of eye: Everyone accepts me in this |
| very successfully neutralized some horribly painful | | | | roleo under eye: and if I recover, they'll expect |
| childhood memories, which had held her back | | | | more of meo under nose: I'll have to resume my |
| from believing in herself. Then she considered, "I'm | | | | responsibilitieso chin: and that's too much for me |
| just wondering who I am without these | | | | right nowo collarbone: I feel threatened by the |
| memories". It was almost as if a part of her | | | | possibility of changingo under arm: I'm afraid to |
| essence had been removed. I suggested she | | | | changeo top of head: I want to enjoy the |
| might want to consider that thought with curiosity | | | | freedom that whole health offers meo eyebrow: I |
| instead of fear, and we started to apply EFT on | | | | want to make a commitment to my healingo side |
| all the things she would be able to think, feel and | | | | of eye: I deserve to feel safe enough to |
| achieve as a result of letting go of those | | | | recovero under eye: I don't have to feel obligated |
| debilitating memories. | | | | to changeo under nose: I choose to feel curious |
| Our subconscious mind wants to keep us safe | | | | about the possibility of changingo chin: and how |
| and is very resistant to change. So, even if the | | | | exciting my life will beo collarbone: I'm starting to |
| possibility of change consciously feels exciting and | | | | feel curious about who I could be without this |
| new, the subconscious will probably do its utmost | | | | illnesso under arm: I deserve to change now |
| to keep us firmly rooted in where we are now, | | | | After you have tapped through this round, write |
| because now is safe and familiar. There is a | | | | down how you're feeling and any new thoughts |
| pay-off for the subconscious to hold on to the | | | | which have come up, then tap again, changing the |
| familiar. This is known as Secondary Benefit | | | | wording if you need to. Remember, the phrases |
| Syndrome. In other words, there is some benefit | | | | you use are simply a way of outwardly |
| to staying where we are now, even if consciously | | | | expressing how you're feeling. You don't need to |
| we desire to move forward. | | | | be creative - just state what's on your mind. |
| Luckily, with EFT we have a tool which can | | | | We are capable of so much but our subconscious |
| override the stubborn subconscious, and I usually | | | | blocks us from moving forward. Thankfully, by |
| suggest my clients tap on the karate chop point | | | | applying EFT we are able to eliminate the |
| (KC) and repeat the following three times: | | | | self-sabotage and not only restore our health, but |
| "Even though for whatever reason, there's a part | | | | move towards vibrancy and living the life we |
| of me that doesn't want to let go of this | | | | deserve to live. |
| _______________ [illness, weight, lack of | | | | |