Who Can I Blame For My Circumstances?

The concept of oneness of self and environmentIn this way we can show our clients by our
is deeply embedded in Buddhist Philosophy. That isbehavior how they can become aware of their
that whatever we feel is happening out there, isown deeper drivers. If we have not yet seen
actually a more truer reflection of what iswhat drives us, we will find it impossible to see
happening in our hearts and minds.what drives others: We will be left with theory
The illusion that we are separate: that things areand constructs but no real experience of what
being done to us, is reinforced and upheld by thecauses people to be who they are. And whats
whole way in which society operates. We aremore, if we are not at peace with ourselves, our
victims of circumstance, the recession, floods,choices and our career, then we cannot conceive
divorce, childhood abuse, and a myriad otherof the peace that others so desperately desire in
obstacles and difficulties that we feel we have nottheir lives.
only not created, but categorically never wanted.What makes it easy for me to offer insight is the
As a Hypnotherapist, we know that ourdepth to which I have looked into my own life.
subconscious motivations are often completelyEverything we see in our clients is something that
clouded by the conscious mind. We know thatexists in our own lives. If we feel frustrated or
what subterranean currents drive us, can be farannoyed or helpless with our clients, it is because
away from our consciousness. And when a wholewe feel the same about issues of our own that
people or land becomes unconscious of its deeperwe haven't yet solved.
drivers, what collective effect is that having onSo next time you find you are scratching your
our recession, our environment, our children andhead about a client, ask yourself "Where in my life
on our conception of our life in today's time andis this reflecting my own block?" or "What feeling
place? Just like dominoes end up irrevocablydo I have with this client and how long has that
pushing the next one over: are we conforming tofeeling been in my life?". This is at times more
some unconscious groundswell of cultural opinion?important a question to ask of ourselves than it is
As people in the vanguard of personalto compound a client's issue by introducing yet
development, we should strive ever more toanother technique.
become aware of what subconsciously drives us.